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    Why people fall in love?

    It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails.



    You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore than take the life out of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalities that two people share. And just as life

    itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.



    Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life - the gift of love will come to you in full flower. Take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.



    When this happen to young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on.



    They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or try to get their love to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life, their love will grow.



    They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.



    You need to know this about love, and accept it. You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.



    If you find yourself someone in love with you but you don't love him back, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage; do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with yourself. All our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.



    If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it nor to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.



    Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.



    There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.



    The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to

    grow only by giving it away.



    Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. BE GLAD THAT IT CAME TO LIVE FOR A MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE.



    If you keep you heart open, it will come again...

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    "Perfect" is such a BIG word.


    What is perfect to some may not be for others.


    My answer for LOVE? - Simple.


    It's being HUMAN: It is to GIVE and to RECEIVE.

    Or The "desire/need/want/hunger/crave/obligation/..." to give & to receive
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    (Love = to give + to receive?) whereas (unconditional love = to give?)

    Unconditional love > love ... therefore ... it is better to give than to receive? If that's the case, how come so many people want to receive without wanting to give?




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    TA dear, The question you asked is NOT a difficult question for you to answer.

    TA said:
    (Love = to give + to receive?) whereas (unconditional love = to give?)
    Unconditional love > love ... therefore ... it is better to give than to receive? If that's the case, how come so many people want to receive without wanting to give?
    1 - First of all, LOVE is not a 1-way street. (This means, there is give and take) (Yin+Yang)...
    (for this...i am looking up the song Trên con đường 1-chiều anh đi trước em sau / không bao giờ gặp gỡ... )

    2 - Second, Love is NOT a one-size-fit-all. (This means every one is different.)

    3 - Third, this question is your answer: If you don't acknowledge the LOVE, does that love exist with you?



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    Quote Originally Posted by Mag_Na_Ni_Mi_Ty View Post
    1 - First of all, LOVE is not a 1-way street. (This means, there is give and take) (Yin+Yang)...
    Why not? Why can't love be a one-way street? Love is love, is it not? But then if we know exactly what love is, there won't be so many people asking what is love. So ...
    2 - Second, Love is NOT a one-size-fit-all. (This means every one is different.)
    This point can be used to answer #1.
    3 - Third, this question is your answer: If you don't acknowledge the LOVE, does that love exist with you?
    A 1910 physics book asks: "When a tree falls in a lonely forest, and no animal is near by to hear it, does it make a sound?" If that's the case, what's my answer? Unperceived existence?


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    this is more fun than I thought!.
    ....someone said love is blind...., aucontraire..I say "love is not blind Love wears designer sun glasses with many colors..."

    okie, let's continue with this...
    * TA
    Why not? Why can't love be a one-way street?
    Answer: Because if Love is on ONE-WAY street heading "north" and the person love wants is running "south" (or in the opposite direction) then love is loving who? loving what?

    Ok, ok...let's have some more fun!

    I should give you at least 1 point for an "irrefutable remark" when you wrote: "Love is Love, is it not?"
    That is good... ...yes, let me see...... love=love=love=love=......love=love=love=love=.... .=love=love=love=love..
    , hmm, I am running in a circle of love.....How do I get out? --> I want OUT......please don't love.
    If it's unconditional why do I feel like I need "air conditioning"? It is it hot in here! I need air, I need water, ....not love, .. help..help.
    ....I might die and the doctor will put--> Cause: LOVE OVERDOSE.

    2 down, we have 1 more to to.
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    But then if we know exactly what love is, there won't be so many people asking what is love.
    Answer: There are many reasons why people do what they do. It is not because people don't know the definition of "love".
    Some asks the question so as to have the opportunity to convince others, who have different opinions of the definition of love than he/she does, to agree on the same definition he/she believes in.

    Now, that's something to think about.


    (Though each person has his/her own answer to love, but here's my take!)

    One can go way back into history mankind and see that without LOVE we could not have survived. Why?
    It is the survival instinct built-in that is so strong. A mother would give her life to protect the son. The father would give his to protect his family and their future happiness, though he wont be around to see that.

    In the case of romantic love, or love between a man and woman, the two (2) lovers will cultivate that love. Together they want to see that love blossom into something wonderful that makes them both happy as long as they are alive.

    Throughout recorded history of mankind (or womankind) there are scores of love songs and love poems and beautiful paintings in different parts of the world, with people of different languages and culture, which portrayed this feeling that we call "love".

    To sum it all up, "love" or "tình yêu" is something very personal.
    The love we have give us incredible strength in the face of adversity.

    Love is part of being human.

    Love helps us survive tremendous hardships and challenges.

    Love forms a very strong bond. Love keeps people together. Love transcend space and time.

    Love enables mankind to survive throughout the ages.

    Without LOVE I would not be here.

    Without LOVE you would not be here.

    Therefor, love is never a one-way-street
    . Amen


    Note: The answers to the question " Why do people fall in love?" are abundantly clear throughout this posting.
    If one can not find at least 365 reasons then we can use this for a LOVE TEST.



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    Cool

    May I answer by another question?

    WHY SHOULD PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE?


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    Quote Originally Posted by Mag_Na_Ni_Mi_Ty View Post
    this is more fun than I thought!
    Glad you found the things I said amusing ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Mag
    Without LOVE I would not be here.
    Without LOVE you would not be here.

    Love may have been in the equation, but not necessary ...


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    Why people fall in love?
    Does gravity has any role to play here ?


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    Quote Originally Posted by JK View Post
    Does gravity has any role to play here ?
    I would say so. Since love is part of the fall, I think centripetal force helps, too.


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