The greatest irony of love...

[gdpt-]

The greatest irony of love:

Loving the right person at the wrong time,
Having the wrong person when the time is right,
And finding out you love someone right after
That person walks out of your life.

And sometimes, you think you’re already over a person,
Until you see them smile at you again,
You’ll suddenly realize that you’re really not.

For some, they think that letting go is one way
Of expressing how much you love the person,
By sacrificing your happiness for theirs,
Without realizing that the other person’s
Doing the same thing for them.

Most relationships tend to fail
Not because of the absence of love;
Love is always present,
It’s just that one is being loved too much
And the other was being loved too little.
We always fall in love with the person we think we love,
Only to discover that what we loved about them fades.

Bad experiences are always remembered,
But it’s the wonderful memories that are captured
To remind us that there are brighter days ahead
And that happiness exists.
You need to learn to let go when you’re hurting too much,
Realize that sometimes love just isn’t enough
And accept the fact that things aren’t always gonna be the same.

There is someone out there who will love you more.
It’s all the thought you put into your decisions
That impairs your judgment
When your heart already knows what you need to do.
Listen to your heart. Even though it’s on the left side, it’s always right.

Is love only temporary?

Question: Torn between two. Who would you choose? The one that you love...or the one that loves you?

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[Handsome Bear]

The greatest irony of love:

Question: Torn between two. Who would you choose? The one that you love...or the one that loves you?


If I think I can adjust myself, I choose the one who loves me.
If I am confident that I can change someone’s heart, I choose the one I love.

Just kidding. :tongue:

The problem is that love has to be two-way, or there will be no love between two people. Love could be a combination of love and hate, and the opposite of love is not hate, but is “neutral”.

Two people, who could love each other to death, could also yell and throw dishes at each other. However, when they don’t care one way or another, the love affair disappears.

So, back to the main discussion point, I believe that one-way love will not work, and I would choose neither. I wouldn't go for one who loves me, and I’d rather live with my broken heart than going for one who doesn’t love me. By forcing love, there will be two suffering souls instead of one.

:hug:

Anyway, this reminds me of a poem from TTKH's Hai Sắc Hoa TiGôn:

…
Từ ấy thu rồi thu lại thu
Lòng tôi còn giá ... đến bao giờ
Chồng tôi vẫn biết tôi còn nhớ ...
người ấy cho nên vẫn hững hờ

Để rồi ...

Tôi vẫn đi bên cạnh cuộc đời
Ái ân nhạt nhẽo của chồng tôi
Và từng thu chết từng thu chết
Vẫn dấu trong tim một bóng người ...

Which one would you rather be? :sad_no:


:thankyou:

[HcVcT]

Question: Torn between two. Who would you choose? The one that you love...or the one that loves you?

HOLD ON!!! The question is : "Who would you choose? The one that you love or the one that loves you?" .... it's not "Who would you choose? The one that you love or the one that loves you (while you're loving someone else)?"

So given the hypothesis that either choose the one I love (that doesn't love me yet) or the one that loves me (while I'm not loving someone else), my choice would be to choose the one that I love regardless of if she loves me or not.

Reasons:
1) If she doesn't love me and she is willing to be mine, then apparently I have an edge over others. That edge might be social status, good look, wealth, popularity, etc... I can affectively use my edge to gain her love. And "NO", I do NOT agree with the statement that "Money can't buy love". I can't buy her out right with money, that's true. But I can sure charm the heck out of her and sweep anyone off her feet given that I have enough money. On the contrary, if I am a poor soul that can't take care of her, eventually I will lose her.
2) Don't underestimate perseverance. We have a saying "đẹp trai không bằng chai mặt". Persevere, persevere, persevere... my friend. Once can move mountains only if he can persevere.
3) Sincerity and love can definitely win someone over. If you're sincere enough, it will move a person. If you love the person enough (not in a possessive way), you can win a person over. Notice I said "win" and not "own".
4) Give... give... give... The more you give, the more you get back... even in "love". Giving is a magical gift that somehow is destined to return to you...

So, in conclusion, if you love someone, drop everything you have right now. Run like a bat out of hell to that person. Love that person like you've just had a cup of sweet cold ice cream on a sweltering hot day. Smile with your gentle eyes, laugh with your bustling hands, joke with your humorous mind, hug with your warm heart, share with your kind soul, and whatever you do... persevere. You can and you will win that person... all for yourself.
It's the power of possitive thinking! Think possitive, it will be possitive. Think negative ("boo hoo, she doesn't love me"), it will be negative. After all, who wants to hang around with a crying and whining baby ???

[gdpt-]

Money definitely CAN buy happiness; but it certainly cannot buy Love. :sleep: As females, who wouldn't want to be pampered by their boyfriends? Who would deny a sincere gift? Seriously, who wouldn't want to marry a millionaire (given he's not obnoxious and still possesses a caring, philantrophic personality)? Come on, who wouldn't?! Oh... wait a minute. Does that mean... I'm a gold digger? :shoock: Of course... not. A gold digger is, according to dictionary[dot]com, a "person who seeks and digs for gold in a gold field." Hm... seriously, do you ever see anyone at the grocery store using gold as a source of payment? So, techinically speaking, no... I wouldn't be one. Well, now that I've cleared that up, shall we continue? :book:

Anyway, I think as females, we appreciate the effort of trying to "buy our happiness." Keep in mind that "buying" doesn't necessarily involve currency. But, like thay Huu stated, it sure is an advantage. Anyway, even if you use it to your vantage, you still cannot charm her enough to gain her Love. I'd have to disagree with "sincerity and love can definitely win someone over." Once we've established that there is no physical attraction and no emotional bond, it's difficult to elicit an intimate connection (I say difficult; not impossible) :dry:. Well, it depends on how we define sincerity. Sincerity as in to continue to show our affection towards that person to prove that we are sincere? Or sincerity in letting that person know we're genuine and our words are reliable? Maybe the second one has potential. I guess it also depends on who you're dealing with. For some, if they only see you as a friend, then you better stop at that. If you continue to persue that person and continue to express your love, it will only irritate them and chase them away. The more you "see someone as a friend" and the more they "see you as a potential date," the more you will be driven off. Sincerity can put the other person in awe for... probably a temporary period of time. Things do change and feelings do fade. If it doesn't work out, don't push it. Of course, everyone is different with distinct perspectives and personalities.

I used to be thrown off by this question because I hadn't the slightest idea on who I'd pick. Well, through my observations and realizations; I've come to realize that I cannot spend a whole future with someone merely because they love me. It is not only unfair to them, but it is also a draw back to the relationship. :unsure: There are always reasons to why you do not love a certain person. Sure, many people will say "because no sparks," but I can assure you that there are also techincal reasons to it. Maybe because they're too clingy? Maybe because they're not tall enough (yes, if you can't surpass their height, it isn't Love)? For whatever reasons, there is definitely something that is stopping you from "loving" that person. And if Love doesn't exist, in no way will the relationship work. But of course, Love can be "developed" through time. I honestly do not know the elements to stirring up emotional feelings, but I'm sure there are secret ingredients that we can add. Yes, some people are sensitive to certain "ingredients" so not all will work on everyone. :glare:

Love definitely needs to be "two-way." But does it need to be equal? Do we need to give 50% and receive 50% to call it Love? I think Love is never equal. No two "persons" can love each other the same amount. Love is unfair, you're either being loved too little and loving too much, or being loved too much and loving too little. But a part of true love is to be able to brush off all that and continue to love that person despite how little you're being loved back.

:chair: Give Love a chance, darn it. Hahah.

:heart:

[Handsome Bear]

... For some, if they only see you as a friend, then you better stop at that. If you continue to persue that person and continue to express your love, it will only irritate them and chase them away.

The more you see someone as a friend and the more they see you as a potential date, the more you will be driven off.

If it doesn't work out, don't push it. Of course, everyone is different with distinct perspectives and personalities.

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Doesn't it sound familiar? :lac:

I'm gonna post these next to my computer and repeat them 10 times before I get on Paltalk.

Thanks for telling us the way it is ... Some of us men are confused to high heaven ...


:thankyou:


:secret:... but a little flirt wouln't hurt a fly, would it?

[gdpt-]

Hahah, flirting wouldn't hurt a fly... but it'll hurt a soul!

Haha, I think everyone flirts unconsciously.